Why are we HATED and HATE?
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HATE and HATED will eat you alive . . . even the word says ATE and that’s exactly what the emotions do! EAT you UP and create emotional, physical, energetic, and spiritual disease. Even if you have logical reasons these emotions will destroy you while the rest of the world stays the same. And must to show you what’s already inside you as you cannot and will not have outside hate unless you have inside hate, spiritual tests, or unbalanced parts to address.
If you’re reading this you most likely already think we are living in a holographic universe. The mirrors of reality is full or relationships with people to help us grow, heal, and evolve. Some of them are very painful. All of us have personalities we would like to understand more deeply. People we are cornered with by work, family, or some kind of dynamics that make escape impossible even though they hurt us.
A lot of times they make us so angry that they start running circles around and around in our minds. Often times it’s like a broken record of their offenses and our reactions. Like we are caught in this negative trap running stories in our heads like a hamster in the wheel . . . going nowhere but continuing the loop of pain over and over.
And then your namaste yoga instructor invokes you to peace and chimes. “We are all one.” And you think but I’m not one with that a$$hole lol. They make me crazy with their psychotic behaviors. Why oh why do they do what they do? I do not and cannot understand? Why are so many people running around hurting each other here?
So much of what people do who are hurt and broken that does not make sense to us actually has a logical reason.
I know, I know we don’t want to engage here right. I used to ponder all the time why people can’t just be nice. If they would be nice though guess what no one would have been here to point out my inner trauma. Now more than anything I know I needed all my pain and suffering to move beyond it, heal what was reflecting, and finally resolve the internal trauma inside of me, they triggered so I could become whole again. What we’ve never understood completely is the laws of attraction are working to bring into our lives exactly what we need to do this. Unless we completely understand the relationships, find the message, and uncode our own inner workings we can’t move past being triggered. So we stay stuck in the loop attracting these experiences and not understanding their meaning!!
We don’t understand that the qualities in the personalities that we attract are simply reflecting back our personal imbalances, spiritual tests we have not yet jumped, and soul wounds that are screaming to be healed. That’s when we start blaming, pointing the finger, and entering the “bitching” sessions. What’s exciting about enlightenment is the new thought paradigms are unraveling their meaning and the old patterns of consciousness are disappearing into the web of time much like the idea that the world is round. Now we can get to the heart of healing as we shift our thinking from blaming others into self-reflection. In any and all relationships that create suffering there is self work to do. These “triggers” are an emotional over-reaction to another person or situation trying to send you a soul message.
YOU WILL BE TRAPPED INTO THESE TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS THAT CREATE SUFFERING AND WILL CONTINUE TO GO AROUND AND AROUND WITH THEM UNTIL YOU LEARN THE LESSON MEANT FOR YOU NOT THEM.
All of those negative emotions when we get “triggered” are necessary so we can use them like a road map to the SOUL. Only once we heal the internal crack or learn the spiritual lesson will we no longer get emotionally worked up by anyone! Yes, it’s absolutely possible to constantly live in unconditional love, forgiveness, peace, and bliss right here on Earth when we learn everything this messy world has to teach us. That’s exactly why I’m proposing to you that we don’t hate other people. We simply think we do as they mirror back some unresolved trauma within us. Unraveling what they are triggering is so important to truly healing so we can radiate positive vibes like unconditional love, compassion, peace, bliss, and forgiveness around all people, situations, and life dynamics.
The only difference is each and every one of OUR ABILITIES TO SEE OUR EGO at work trying so eagerly to pull us into the darkness. The exciting part is we are all one with different personalities mirroring back different broken parts of ourselves. You can see this all of the time with people. If you go to a social function with a group of people every single person there is going to have a different experience. Every person will take away a different view of each person and whatever they get upset about in the other people is trying to show them something about themselves.
We’ve all had this happen where our friend will start ranting about someone who was at the party and we are like hmmmm we didn’t notice that or if we did it didn’t bother us. We didn’t get emotionally worked up about whatever the characteristic was that is currently making our friend rant and rave.
That’s exciting when you understand this and really start doing your own personal work. We are all mirrors of each other and all of the people, situations, and players are attracted to us in order to keep pushing these key areas right in our face! These are the triggers to our internal barometer that we miss when we get lost in blaming things on other people or thinking everything is about them. AND guess what’s easy to identify . . . other people’s short comings, faults, and trauma’s all the while we are positively blind to our own. And there are some things I believe in the bible and some things I believe are man made but this verse I totally agree with . . .
“Why do you look at the splinter in your brother’s eye but don’t notice the beam of wood in your own?” Matt 7:3
I have found that my own ability to unconditionally love, forgive, and have peace with others is not about any internal greatness. The key has been in identifying exactly how I operate off of my own ego. Sinner! I work continuously when triggered to see how I do the same damm thing. Lot’s of times what I think about others is actually a message that’s more about me than them. I am full of “beams of wood” and I make sure I recognize it, let it surface, acknowledge, accept, and forgive when it becomes mirrored back to me. And you know what if I can’t figure it out guess what happens . . . a repeat situation for me to get triggered by hahaha.
Even once you understand the dynamics the universe will conspire to place you back in the situation to test you and assess if you’ve really learned what you needed to know.
So forgiving “them” in the illusion of this world looks like I’m forgiving someone outside of me yet truly I’m simply using the outside experience to soul investigate. This is exactly why this holographic universe is created brilliantly and in consideration of our blind eye. Everything needs to look like everything is about others so we can see those experiences where we need to do soul work mirrored back to us. The shifting of enlightenment here is where we simply move out of these old thought paradigms that think it’s about them rather than us. The judgement’s can stop and the ego can be revealed since it’s so ready to assign the blame to others. Plus we can do the soul work to heal, balance, and move into new thought patterns.
The internal inspection is what must begin!
Step 1 – Soul Investigation: What are the qualities in me that created the need for the situation? How do I do this same thing that I cannot see?
Step 2 – Are they sending me a message about my unbalanced parts that need soul work so I can no longer emotionally react to their behaviors? (All anger and hatred doesn’t boil down to what we are covering today. Look for the next blog post and we will cover the next element. How anger and hatred can reflect internal in-balances or spiritual hurdles we have not yet jumped. The subject is just bigger than one blog post can cover. Awe we are intricately designed souls!)
Let’s break down Step 1 with a specific example so you can think about your personal triggers in a new way and move from anger to unconditional love . . .
This is a real example from a family I know but all of our families are the same. In fact, families are simply a way to trap us into relationships with people we have unresolved issues with that need to be worked out. Meaning enemies in a past lifetime may contract to be brother and sister in this lifetime. Or in this example the dynamic involves a little girl, Joanne and her Grandma Marie. Grandma Marie has made it apparent that she does not like Joanne. She will do things like purposely not get her a birthday present while she will for the other grandchildren. It’s apparent in how she treats her differently that she doesn’t like little Joanne. Why?
Well grandma Marie is a negative vibe person. She suffers depression and isolates herself from the world. Little Joanne is a naturally happy, bubbly, little soul who loves life naturally and is very active in all kinds of things. She loves people, activities, and the world. Grandma Marie gets a mirror image of what she hates about herself every time Joanne is around. The illusion is that Grandma Marie doesn’t like me. Well it’s not about Joanne beyond the fact she is everything Grandma Marie is NOT which triggers Grandma Marie into her own self-anger, judgments, and pain. Every time little Joanne is around this causes an internal turmoil for Grandma Marie.
On the outside looking in Joanne and her mother are so confused by this?!?! Why oh why does Grandma Marie treat the other children differently and it’s painfully obvious that little Joanne is the outcast grandchild. Grandma ignores her, appears disgruntled and disapproving of her behaviors, and does not recognize her or congratulate her on special achievements. She is never happy or loving to cute little Joanne. Really this is not about Joanne at all. The anger we have for others is never about them but always about ourselves. If we can separate the soul wounds, see deeper into people, and teach how to apply these principles no one will take things personally. Plus they will stay in compassion for the person who seems to be projecting the “hate” or “anger” onto them. Really at the heart of this grandma is a wounded soul who is unhappy with herself. These qualities Joanne has that she lacks are painful for her to face. Rather than grandma being able to see her jealousy, self-rejection, and internal trauma to finally heal she appears to reject, ignore, or punish her own grandchild.
To complete the wheel we must also look into how we are guilty of this too. We happened to go ice skating with Joanne and her sister Lilly. Joanne is the natural athlete, dancer, and happy vibe but once getting on the ice she felt “very uncomfortable”. She is doing something new and is not used to not being able to excel. This is a new feeling for her and the immediate ego reaction to getting outside of the comfort zone is to run back to safety. I can see she doesn’t want to skate anymore but everyone else is and they appear to be having fun so she is cornered to continuing on. Joanne gets sullen and for the first time since she’s been at our house gets in a negative mind set. We skate for about an hour when their mom shows up. There is still about a half an hour left to skate but Joanne, my daughter, and myself join her mom in the bleachers to visit while the other kids finish up skating.
Little sister Lilly is having a great time. She happened to get rollerblades for Christmas so even though this is her first time ice skating she is flying down the ice. We watch in excitement from the bleachers as she is doing turns for us showing off her new skills. Everyone is watching her and the other kids in delight as they go around and around the skating ring. Mom pulls out her phone to video as little sister Lilly displays a nice spin right in front of us so we can see. We all cheer for the kids!
Joanne immediately gets completely wound up and becomes angry, hurt, and upset! She is so mad that her mother did not get any video of her even though she is the one who got off the ice upon seeing her. She leaves the stands as it is too painful for her to see her sister getting all of the GLORY, LOVE, AND ATTENTION. Joanne yells at her mother blaming her when it’s not her fault. Mom puts the phone away and gets intimidated by Joanne’s anger. She’s an empath and doesn’t want her daughter to feel bad. Internally you can see the peace maker in her not liking anyone being upset or frazzled. Especially since Joanne has pointed the finger at her making it appear to be moms fault. Yet, mom is trapped because she is excited and proud to see her other daughter little Lilly doing so well and having so much fun!
Here is mom stuck in the middle . . . needing to separate for herself. Who’s issues are who’s and how do I handle the situation in an effective healing way? What she doesn’t realize is Joanne is not mad at her. She’s mad at her own inability to skate like a rockstar and do a little turn in front of mom to make her proud. She’s JEALOUS! The same exact issue Grandma Marie has with her!! The bottom line issue is the same. Now Joanne is angry for the qualities she doesn’t have (the current one being she did not immediately excel at ice skating) and it’s showing up as anger at someone else.
In this situation the forces of the universe have placed her to feel the same exact way Grandma Marie feels about her. Grandma Marie has to watch Joanne flit around in her bubbly, happy, fun loving vibes while she is just not capable of being that way and most likely is frustrated, angry, and rejects herself for it! That’s exactly why it appears Grandma Marie rejects little Joanne but that is not the soul truth. The soul truth is Grandma Marie has inner trauma she never knew how to heal, accept, or expand beyond because the tools and techniques were never presented to her or she did not care to because it wasn’t her time yet. Meaning the other people in her life still had ways they needed to evolve from her being exactly the way she is and so the healing becomes hinged on those around her healing from what her broken parts have to teach them about their broken parts!
And here we come back into being “all one”. If you want to change the world all you need to do is focus on the elements of yourself that created the need for the people in your life to be the way they are and if there is soul work to do you will know by the suffering in the relationship.
Joanne now has a new way to understand how Grandma Marie feels when she is around based on compassion, love, forgiveness, and understanding. If she wants to be hurt or angry she can pull up this incidence of ice skating up in her mind. She knows how she felt about her little sister having a glorious time, spinning, racing, and enjoying the ice. All Joanne felt was uncomfortable, unsure of herself, and gloomy about this new adventure in ice skating and now she is acting like Grandma Marie. She truly got so upset watching her sister shine that she left the bleachers. It was that painful for her ego to watch her sister doing so well. If Joanne can see how her anger and jealousy works what happens when other girls, Grandma Marie or someone else does it to her? She can see her own guilt in operating the same way rather than be hurt, unforgiving, and judgmental. Oh I have done that too! Oh this really isn’t about me and I can see how I’m guilty myself of doing the same exact thing when the situations are reversed. Not that we want to stay in that pattern. When you truly see this and how it works you simply expand beyond it. You can replace the ego pop up of jealousy with admiration. If Joanne had known the tools to see how she herself was dragging herself into suffering she could have recognized “oh hello ego jealousy, envy, self-disappointment”, let it go, and moved into our natural divine state.
Admiration, Joy, Unconditional Love, Forgiveness, Peace, And Bliss
This is a prime example of how we are all fragmented energy from the same source. The body is simply a vessel to take turns being each other to build our compassion, unconditional love, forgiveness, and peace. The prism of the hologram is brilliantly designed. You know why we need these experiences mirrored back to us in this way? Because we are experts at seeing and picking apart each other but the ego makes us completely blind to our own faults, wounds, and fragmented parts. The ego doesn’t want to be accountable and fess up. But what happens if we learn the concepts, principles, and do the self work to correct the response?
We become capable of seeing how all situations mirror our own internal trauma and can do the self-work to correct it. Teaching the principles of looking at the internal problem with a new set of eyeballs and heart center becomes the new wave of consciousness. I am jealous of my little sister when she ice skates better than I do. Mom seems so happy, proud, and excited about her. My ego is screaming what about me? I decide I’m not good enough. I love myself based on a set of performance conditions rather than unconditionally and based on my actual effort. I did something that made me uncomfortable today. Even though I’m not doing spins and twists I am proud of myself. There is a negative loop running in Joanne’s mind that can be rewired. We are all born naturally to run negative stories in our minds and must do the self-work to watch those thoughts come up and then replace them with the positive thoughts.
This is powerful event where she can transform the emotions into unconditional love, admiration, forgiveness, and peace. Plus she has a point of reference now. When Grandma Marie seems to exclude, ignore, and not like her she can relate to the trauma that seeing Joanne presents for her and hold her in compassion. Grandma Marie has that same dilemma as she gets angry and judges herself for not being able to be that happy, bubbly, loving life vibe. This is obviously a place of deep hurt for grandma as it appears that she rejects little Joanne what she is really doing is rejecting herself at her very core.
Joanne has been provided with the concepts now and can see how she has behaved the same way with her sister Lilly. This allows everyone to stay humble, forgive, and hold an amazing space of unconditional love and compassion for one another.
These mirrors, lack programming, and negative voices are going on all inside of these relationships and situation dynamics all of the time. Like in this example, I am not good enough, and because I love myself based on conditions “my performance, behaviors, or actions that don’t measure up” I’ve decided to reject and be angry with myself. The mirror here is where Joanne does not unconditionally love herself unless she measures up ice skating. This shows the insecurity, ego rating, and internal trauma inside of her just like Grandma Mary has insecurity, ego rating, and internal trauma inside of her for being depressed, not loving life, or being able to naturally just feel happy.
Imagine what can happen if all of these players do self work through their experiences!
Fascinating isn’t it!
Think about the “issues” you have with people that run around and around. Our relationships are the greatest teachers we have on our own inner traumas, weaknesses, insecurities, and spiritual hurdles we have not jumped. We just need to flip the switch on the script. See what is reflecting that is my problem? What is their problem? What needs to be done about it to heal and evolve. Even if we just simply work on ourselves and let go of others journeys the wheel of hurt can stop at us! When people talk about or have issues with us we switch our perspective and can be compassionate because it’s really the issues they have with themselves showing up.
If we want to clean up the outside world we have to be willing to do the inner work to clean up the inside. That means dropping the negative frequencies and replacing them with the positive frequencies. That’s the spiritual evolution soulution!
Let’s bliss this place up!
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