Why are we HATED and HATE?

Why are we HATED and HATE?

HATE and HATED will eat you alive . . . even the word says ATE and that’s exactly what the emotions do!  EAT you UP and create emotional, physical, energetic, and spiritual disease.  Even if you have logical reasons these emotions will destroy you while the rest of the world stays the same.  And must to show you what’s already inside you as you cannot and will not have outside hate unless you have inside hate, spiritual tests, or unbalanced parts to address.

If you’re reading this you most likely already think we are living in a holographic universe.  The mirrors of reality is full or relationships with people to help us grow, heal, and evolve.  Some of them are very painful.  All of us have personalities we would like to understand more deeply.  People we are cornered with by work, family, or some kind of dynamics that make escape impossible even though they hurt us.

On purpose.

A lot of times they make us so angry that they start running circles around and around in our minds.  Often times it’s like a broken record of their offenses and our reactions.  Like we are caught in this negative trap running stories in our heads like a hamster in the wheel . . . going nowhere but continuing the loop of pain over and over.

And then your namaste yoga instructor invokes you to peace and chimes.  “We are all one.”  And you think but I’m not one with that a$$hole lol.  They make me crazy with their psychotic behaviors.  Why oh why do they do what they do?  I do not and cannot understand?  Why are so many people running around hurting each other here?

So much of what people do who are hurt and broken that does not make sense to us actually has a logical reason.

I know, I know we don’t want to engage here right.  I used to ponder all the time why people can’t just be nice.  If they would be nice though guess what no one would have been here to point out my inner trauma.  Now more than anything I know I needed all my pain and suffering to move beyond it, heal what was reflecting, and finally resolve the internal trauma inside of me, they triggered so I could become whole again.  What we’ve never understood completely is the laws of attraction are working to bring into our lives exactly what we need to do this.  Unless we completely understand the relationships, find the message, and uncode our own inner workings we can’t move past being triggered.  So we stay stuck in the loop attracting these experiences and not understanding their meaning!!

We don’t understand that the qualities in the personalities that we attract are simply reflecting back our personal imbalances, spiritual tests we have not yet jumped, and soul wounds that are screaming to be healed.  That’s when we start blaming, pointing the finger, and entering the “bitching” sessions.  What’s exciting about enlightenment is the new thought paradigms are unraveling their meaning and the old patterns of consciousness are disappearing into the web of time much like the idea that the world is round.  Now we can get to the heart of healing as we shift our thinking from blaming others into self-reflection.  In any and all relationships that create suffering there is self work to do.  These “triggers” are an emotional over-reaction to another person or situation trying to send you a soul message.


All of those negative emotions when we get “triggered” are necessary so we can use them like a road map to the SOUL.  Only once we heal the internal crack or learn the spiritual lesson will we no longer get emotionally worked up by anyone!  Yes, it’s absolutely possible to constantly live in unconditional love, forgiveness, peace, and bliss right here on Earth when we learn everything this messy world has to teach us.  That’s exactly why I’m proposing to you that we don’t hate other people.  We simply think we do as they mirror back some unresolved trauma within us.  Unraveling what they are triggering is so important to truly healing so we can radiate positive vibes like unconditional love, compassion, peace, bliss, and forgiveness around all people, situations, and life dynamics.

The only difference is each and every one of OUR ABILITIES TO SEE OUR EGO at work trying so eagerly to pull us into the darkness.  The exciting part is we are all one with different personalities mirroring back different broken parts of ourselves.  You can see this all of the time with people.  If you go to a social function with a group of people every single person there is going to have a different experience.  Every person will take away a different view of each person and whatever they get upset about in the other people is trying to show them something about themselves.

We’ve all had this happen where our friend will start ranting about someone who was at the party and we are like hmmmm we didn’t notice that or if we did it didn’t bother us.  We didn’t get emotionally worked up about whatever the characteristic was that is currently making our friend rant and rave.

That’s exciting when you understand this and really start doing your own personal work.  We are all mirrors of each other and all of the people, situations, and players are attracted to us in order to keep pushing these key areas right in our face!  These are the triggers to our internal barometer that we miss when we get lost in blaming things on other people or thinking everything is about them.  AND guess what’s easy to identify . . . other people’s short comings, faults, and trauma’s all the while we are positively blind to our own.  And there are some things I believe in the bible and some things I believe are man made but this verse I totally agree with . . .

“Why do you look at the splinter in your brother’s eye but don’t notice the beam of wood in your own?”  Matt 7:3

I have found that my own ability to unconditionally love, forgive, and have peace with others is not about any internal greatness.  The key has been in identifying exactly how I operate off of my own ego.  Sinner!  I work continuously when triggered to see how I do the same damm thing.  Lot’s of times what I think about others is actually a message that’s more about me than them.  I am full of “beams of wood” and I make sure I recognize it, let it surface, acknowledge, accept, and forgive when it becomes mirrored back to me.  And you know what if I can’t figure it out guess what happens . . . a repeat situation for me to get triggered by hahaha.

Even once you understand the dynamics the universe will conspire to place you back in the situation to test you and assess if you’ve really learned what you needed to know.

So forgiving “them” in the illusion of this world looks like I’m forgiving someone outside of me yet truly I’m simply using the outside experience to soul investigate.  This is exactly why this holographic universe is created brilliantly and in consideration of our blind eye.  Everything needs to look like everything is about others so we can see those experiences where we need to do soul work mirrored back to us.  The shifting of enlightenment here is where we simply move out of these old thought paradigms that think it’s about them rather than us.  The judgement’s can stop and the ego can be revealed since it’s so ready to assign the blame to others. Plus we can do the soul work to heal, balance, and move into new thought patterns.

The internal inspection is what must begin!

Step 1 – Soul Investigation:  What are the qualities in me that created the need for the situation?  How do I do this same thing that I cannot see?

Step 2 – Are they sending me a message about my unbalanced parts that need soul work so I can no longer emotionally react to their behaviors? (All anger and hatred doesn’t boil down to what we are covering today.  Look for the next blog post and we will cover the next element.  How anger and hatred can reflect internal in-balances or spiritual hurdles we have not yet jumped.  The subject is just bigger than one blog post can cover.  Awe we are intricately designed souls!)

Let’s break down Step 1 with a specific example so you can think about your personal triggers in a new way and move from anger to unconditional love . . .

This is a real example from a family I know but all of our families are the same.  In fact, families are simply a way to trap us into relationships with people we have unresolved issues with that need to be worked out.  Meaning enemies in a past lifetime may contract to be brother and sister in this lifetime.  Or in this example the dynamic involves a little girl, Joanne and her Grandma Marie.  Grandma Marie has made it apparent that she does not like Joanne.  She will do things like purposely not get her a birthday present while she will for the other grandchildren.  It’s apparent in how she treats her differently that she doesn’t like little Joanne.  Why?

Well grandma Marie is a negative vibe person.  She suffers depression and isolates herself from the world.  Little Joanne is a naturally happy, bubbly, little soul who loves life naturally and is very active in all kinds of things. She loves people, activities, and the world. Grandma Marie gets a mirror image of what she hates about herself every time Joanne is around. The illusion is that Grandma Marie doesn’t like me. Well it’s not about Joanne beyond the fact she is everything Grandma Marie is NOT which triggers Grandma Marie into her own self-anger, judgments, and pain.  Every time little Joanne is around this causes an internal turmoil for Grandma Marie.

On the outside looking in Joanne and her mother are so confused by this?!?!  Why oh why does Grandma Marie treat the other children differently and it’s painfully obvious that little Joanne is the outcast grandchild.  Grandma ignores her, appears disgruntled and disapproving of her behaviors, and does not recognize her or congratulate her on special achievements.  She is never happy or loving to cute little Joanne.  Really this is not about Joanne at all.  The anger we have for others is never about them but always about ourselves. If we can separate the soul wounds, see deeper into people, and teach how to apply these principles no one will take things personally. Plus they will stay in compassion for the person who seems to be projecting the “hate” or “anger” onto them.  Really at the heart of this grandma is a wounded soul who is unhappy with herself.  These qualities Joanne has that she lacks are painful for her to face.  Rather than grandma being able to see her jealousy, self-rejection, and internal trauma to finally heal she appears to reject, ignore, or punish her own grandchild.

To complete the wheel we must also look into how we are guilty of this too.  We happened to go ice skating with Joanne and her sister Lilly. Joanne is the natural athlete, dancer, and happy vibe but once getting on the ice she felt “very uncomfortable”. She is doing something new and is not used to not being able to excel. This is a new feeling for her and the immediate ego reaction to getting outside of the comfort zone is to run back to safety.  I can see she doesn’t want to skate anymore but everyone else is and they appear to be having fun so she is cornered to continuing on.  Joanne gets sullen and for the first time since she’s been at our house gets in a negative mind set. We skate for about an hour when their mom shows up. There is still about a half an hour left to skate but Joanne, my daughter, and myself join her mom in the bleachers to visit while the other kids finish up skating.

Little sister Lilly is having a great time.  She happened to get rollerblades for Christmas so even though this is her first time ice skating she is flying down the ice. We watch in excitement from the bleachers as she is doing turns for us showing off her new skills.   Everyone is watching her and the other kids in delight as they go around and around the skating ring. Mom pulls out her phone to video as little sister Lilly displays a nice spin right in front of us so we can see. We all cheer for the kids!

Joanne immediately gets completely wound up and becomes angry, hurt, and upset!  She is so mad that her mother did not get any video of her even though she is the one who got off the ice upon seeing her. She leaves the stands as it is too painful for her to see her sister getting all of the GLORY, LOVE, AND ATTENTION. Joanne yells at her mother blaming her when it’s not her fault. Mom puts the phone away and gets intimidated by Joanne’s anger. She’s an empath and doesn’t want her daughter to feel bad. Internally you can see the peace maker in her not liking anyone being upset or frazzled.  Especially since Joanne has pointed the finger at her making it appear to be moms fault.  Yet, mom is trapped because she is excited and proud to see her other daughter little Lilly doing so well and having so much fun!

Here is mom stuck in the middle . . . needing to separate for herself. Who’s issues are who’s and how do I handle the situation in an effective healing way?  What she doesn’t realize is Joanne is not mad at her. She’s mad at her own inability to skate like a rockstar and do a little turn in front of mom to make her proud. She’s JEALOUS!  The same exact issue Grandma Marie has with her!!  The bottom line issue is the same. Now Joanne is angry for the qualities she doesn’t have (the current one being she did not immediately excel at ice skating) and it’s showing up as anger at someone else.

In this situation the forces of the universe have placed her to feel the same exact way Grandma Marie feels about her.  Grandma Marie has to watch Joanne flit around in her bubbly, happy, fun loving vibes while she is just not capable of being that way and most likely is frustrated, angry, and rejects herself for it!  That’s exactly why it appears Grandma Marie rejects little Joanne but that is not the soul truth.  The soul truth is Grandma Marie has inner trauma she never knew how to heal, accept, or expand beyond because the tools and techniques were never presented to her or she did not care to because it wasn’t her time yet.  Meaning the other people in her life still had ways they needed to evolve from her being exactly the way she is and so the healing becomes hinged on those around her healing from what her broken parts have to teach them about their broken parts!

And here we come back into being “all one”.  If you want to change the world all you need to do is focus on the elements of yourself that created the need for the people in your life to be the way they are and if there is soul work to do you will know by the suffering in the relationship.

Joanne now has a new way to understand how Grandma Marie feels when she is around based on compassion, love, forgiveness, and understanding.  If she wants to be hurt or angry she can pull up this incidence of ice skating up in her mind.  She knows how she felt about her little sister having a glorious time, spinning, racing, and enjoying the ice.  All Joanne felt was uncomfortable, unsure of herself, and gloomy about this new adventure in ice skating and now she is acting like Grandma Marie.  She truly got so upset watching her sister shine that she left the bleachers.  It was that painful for her ego to watch her sister doing so well.  If Joanne can see how her anger and jealousy works what happens when other girls, Grandma Marie or someone else does it to her?  She can see her own guilt in operating the same way rather than be hurt, unforgiving, and judgmental. Oh I have done that too!  Oh this really isn’t about me and I can see how I’m guilty myself of doing the same exact thing when the situations are reversed.  Not that we want to stay in that pattern.  When you truly see this and how it works you simply expand beyond it.  You can replace the ego pop up of jealousy with admiration.  If Joanne had known the tools to see how she herself was dragging herself into suffering she could have recognized “oh hello ego jealousy, envy, self-disappointment”, let it go, and moved into our natural divine state.

Admiration, Joy, Unconditional Love, Forgiveness, Peace, And Bliss

This is a prime example of how we are all fragmented energy from the same source.  The body is simply a vessel to take turns being each other to build our compassion, unconditional love, forgiveness, and peace.  The prism of the hologram is brilliantly designed.  You know why we need these experiences mirrored back to us in this way?  Because we are experts at seeing and picking apart each other but the ego makes us completely blind to our own faults, wounds, and fragmented parts.  The ego doesn’t want to be accountable and fess up.  But what happens if we learn the concepts, principles, and do the self work to correct the response?

We become capable of seeing how all situations mirror our own internal trauma and can do the self-work to correct it.  Teaching the principles of looking at the internal problem with a new set of eyeballs and heart center becomes the new wave of consciousness. I am jealous of my little sister when she ice skates better than I do.  Mom seems so happy, proud, and excited about her.  My ego is screaming what about me?  I decide I’m not good enough.  I love myself based on a set of performance conditions rather than unconditionally and based on my actual effort.  I did something that made me uncomfortable today.  Even though I’m not doing spins and twists I am proud of myself.  There is a negative loop running in Joanne’s mind that can be rewired.  We are all born naturally to run negative stories in our minds and must do the self-work to watch those thoughts come up and then replace them with the positive thoughts.

This is powerful event where she can transform the emotions into unconditional love, admiration, forgiveness, and peace.   Plus she has a point of reference now.  When Grandma Marie seems to exclude, ignore, and not like her she can relate to the trauma that seeing Joanne presents for her and hold her in compassion.  Grandma Marie has that same dilemma as she gets angry and judges herself for not being able to be that happy, bubbly, loving life vibe.  This is obviously a place of deep hurt for grandma as it appears that she rejects little Joanne what she is really doing is rejecting herself at her very core.

Joanne has been provided with the concepts now and can see how she has behaved the same way with her sister Lilly.  This allows everyone to stay humble, forgive, and hold an amazing space of unconditional love and compassion for one another.

These mirrors, lack programming, and negative voices are going on all inside of these relationships and situation dynamics all of the time.  Like in this example, I am not good enough, and because I love myself based on conditions “my performance, behaviors, or actions that don’t measure up” I’ve decided to reject and be angry with myself. The mirror here is where Joanne does not unconditionally love herself unless she measures up ice skating. This shows the insecurity, ego rating, and internal trauma inside of her just like Grandma Mary has insecurity, ego rating, and internal trauma inside of her for being depressed, not loving life, or being able to naturally just feel happy.

Imagine what can happen if all of these players do self work through their experiences!

Fascinating isn’t it!

Think about the “issues” you have with people that run around and around. Our relationships are the greatest teachers we have on our own inner traumas, weaknesses, insecurities, and spiritual hurdles we have not jumped. We just need to flip the switch on the script. See what is reflecting that is my problem? What is their problem? What needs to be done about it to heal and evolve.  Even if we just simply work on ourselves and let go of others journeys the wheel of hurt can stop at us!  When people talk about or have issues with us we switch our perspective and can be compassionate because it’s really the issues they have with themselves showing up.

If we want to clean up the outside world we have to be willing to do the inner work to clean up the inside.  That means dropping the negative frequencies and replacing them with the positive frequencies.  That’s the spiritual evolution soulution!

Let’s bliss this place up!

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Toxic Attractions and New Reactions

We all know those toxic personalities that we just cannot escape on planet Earth . . . DAMMIT LOL!  The light and the dark actually line up TO TEACH EACH OTHER soul lessons.  We often find ourselves cornered into dealing with them at work, home, or in life in some way.  If we don’t understand all the dynamics instead of the dark (narcissists, toxic personalities, etc) making the light (empaths, healers, fixers) shine brighter they actually feed off of our vibes like a parasite.  You can’t see it but there is energy transferring between people all of the time.  AND if the toxic person can control your emotions you are giving them “supply”.  Unknowingly feeding the beast . . .

In order to starve them of getting any energy from you and sealing off your own energetic body you have to do inner work.  This post is designed for the Empath (light body) who is already educated on the Narcissist’s (dark bodies) traits and behaviors.  I will be posting a future blog on those qualities but I feel that there are plenty of online articles and information available on the topic.  In fact, Melanie Tonia Evans has a fabulous amount of blogs and youtube’s with an amazing amount of content and information.  I personally have relied on her work to help me make sense of the nonsense and heal a lot of broken parts inside myself.  If I was to pay her for what she has done to help me with completely FREE resources I would owe her millions of dollars.  I can’t thank her enough for her work and what she continues to do in evolving the consciousness and healing of the planet.  She is brilliant!!  Here’s the link to her blog post outlining the characteristics of a narcissist (dark body).

Click Here – Characteristics of the Narcissist

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program by Melanie Tonia Evans

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What I’ve not seen a lot of information about is the actual soul purpose of the Narcissists and Toxic Personalities.  There are specific reasons that we are in this sort of container with what I call dark bodies (narcissists).  God/Universe/Gaia has designed this dimension on purpose with these personality types.

In the relationship of the Empath (light body) and the Narcissist (dark body) both parties are looking for the other person to change so they don’t have to deal with their own inadequacies.  Yet if we change, heal, grow and evolve ourselves a powerful dynamic changes.  We recognize the narcissist’s tactics have become the stepping stone we use to get stronger.  In fact, they are like looking into a mirror where our imbalances line up with theirs perfectly.  These dynamics are actually where the opposite charges line up, attract, and connect people in relationships where they have places they need to do self-work.  Any element of your life that has suffering is trying to communicate with you a message for inner healing and self-realization.

Here are a few important tips to remember when dealing with narcissists, toxic, controlling, and manipulative personalities:

  1. CONFRONTATIONAL MEETS HIDES FROM CONFRONTATION:  When having a different opinion do not be wavered on what you think and feel. Be aware your job is to state your thoughts, belief systems, or ideals but then be unattached to their reaction.  They will argue for the state of arguing if you engage.  They love drama!  They usually create their own problems and then cry about them regardless of what they say.  Engaging means getting emotionally wrapped up in trying to make your point be heard, acknowledged, and accepted.  The narcissist is not capable.  However what you are begging yourself to do is be heard by YOU!  Regardless of what anyone believes, does, or thinks I am valid and have a right to be heard.  Do not let your voice be squashed but do not try to convince them of anything either.  You do not have to agree to respect each other’s opinions or love one another.  Understand you can control your reactions and how you deal with people.  THAT’S IT!  Everyone else is simply living their life according to their own viewpoints and reality.  If they weren’t completely delusional we would never gain this inner strength.
  2. CRITICAL OF OURSELVES MEETS CRITICAL OF US:  Love yourself exactly as you are including your flaws and imperfections. They will absolutely manipulate those against you!  They will say things on purpose to hurt your feelings.  We need the experience to show us where we reject ourselves.  The criticisms that cause us emotional distress or suffering are actually the mirrors where we hold guilt, anger, shame, or some kind of negative emotions “conditional love” about ourselves.  They are doing their part to painfully point it out.  If someone criticizes you ask yourself is this my issue?  Am I the one that’s got the internal problem.  I hate that I’m __________________.  Allow those criticisms to show you where you need to work on you.  When you no longer emotionally react you know have healed all those spaces where you reject you.  Newsflash it wasn’t ever about them anyways!
  3. CONTROLLING MEETS GIVES OTHER PEOPLE CONTROL:  As an empath we have no desire to control other people.  Yet, here is the dark body always trying to manipulate and control us.  They have so many tactics they that we are completely unaware of because we don’t use those skill sets.  Threats, blow ups, manipulating what we love in order to set us up (money, your children, hobbies, wherever your heart maybe attached too).  Isolating us from healthy relationships.  And yet we have the power to see through all of these tactics in order to regain our control.  If we don’t fall into the manipulation tactics and maintain a strong sense of self, who we are, and what we want they CANNOT infiltrate our being with their techniques.  The dark bodies see people as commodities to be controlled on purpose so we develop this strength.  It’s your job to stop giving away all your control.  Take back your personal power.
  4. WILL NOT GIVE YOU CREDIT FOR WHAT YOU DO MEETS WILL NOT GIVE OURSELVES CREDIT FOR WHAT WE DO:  We don’t feel like we are enough so we attract someone who makes us feel like we are never enough.  Every time they do not validate you . . . VALIDATE YOURSELF! They on purpose are not going to hear your concerns, give you credit for anything you do, or desire you to truly feel supported, loved, and honored.  You will have to become that sense of support, love, and trust to yourself.  Start giving yourself credit for what you do and contribute.  The reason we attract these soul mates is to create the suffering we need to see the issue isn’t them but us and where we have failed ourselves.  That we can fix!
  5. LIAR/MANIPULATOR MEETS NAIVE/GULLIBLE:  Awe it’s so cute for them to watch us truly believe their lies.  Here is the snake in the tree of the Garden of Eden so beautifully selling us the apple.  We are like Eve believing them because we are not full of lies and manipulations.  We don’t see those coming.  On purpose the snake has these magical powers to in fact “sell ice to the Eskimo”.  Here we are just falling into the trap believing them.  Start studying the habits of liars and manipulators.  Do they change their tone of voice or body language?  Where do their words not line up with their actions?  Do not just believe people without consulting the inner investigator first!  Lies, manipulations, blow ups, silent treatments, pouting, brooding, projecting, slandering, and the whole beautiful array of narcissistic manipulative tactics you can see through once you really get educated.  Start studying their tactics so you don’t get pulled into their games time and time again.
  6. TAKER MEETS THE GIVER:  Set your boundaries for yourself. Know exactly what you will and won’t do.  This can be the hardest part for Empaths.  We are giving tree’s and that’s exactly why they saw us as a commodity.  Not only will you have to set boundaries for yourself but you will have to FIGHT for them.  Here you are non-confrontational, a people pleaser, and always want to make other people happy.  They are that pushy person who will take, take, take until you are completely drained.  You sincerely want to be and do everything for everyone else at the cost of completely selling your soul.  We actually think we have to be a commodity for someone else to love us and they think you need to be a commodity for them to be loved.  Make the decision to say “no”, set boundaries, and reach balance (giving/receiving).  This will be a new space in the relationship and maybe difficult for them.  Be grounded and unattached to their tactics.  If they don’t love you when you are no longer the giving tree they never truly loved you anyways.
  7. CANNOT FIGHT FOR OURSELVES MEETS SOMEONE WHO WON’T FIGHT FOR YOU AND IS ALWAYS FIGHTING AGAINST YOU:  We must finally learn how to fight for ourselves in balance.  We have to see all the tactics, get trained, and learn some skills to protect ourselves.  If you are battling for something you feel is right be prepared to really lay out the carpet as to how this decision or agreement will BENEFIT the narcissist. They are ego maniacs so you can also use sheltering their public appearance as an important cornerstone.  Add in some little comments, “How will it look to everyone if you don’t support ___________?”  They are masters at triangulation meaning using an outside person to corner or gaslight you.  They will have usually teamed up with another person who makes a good puppet for them in order for you to feel like the odd man out.  This creates the illusion that you are wrong.  We will get into some of the tactics in a future blog post but you can get educated now.  Gaslighting, blanket generalizations, talking in circles, projections, and all kinds of tactics will be used against you.  Get educated and start fighting for yourself!
  8. CO-DEPENDENT MEETS CAN’T BE TRUSTED WITH BEING DEPENDED ON:  Get ready to move through the co-dependent part of you!  Really get at peace with being in your own company.  Trust me you’ll have plenty of time while you’re in the silent treatment mode or being discarded and de-valued!  Get serious with yourself . . . are you the “needs to be needed” attracting the “needy”?  Narcissists are great at trying to convince you to sign on the dotted line.  Once they get what they want poof they are gone.  On purpose the co-dependent needs this person who cannot be relied upon to lean and trust in themselves.  AND Definitely don’t agree to signing up for anything you know you can’t complete yourself.  If you need their knowledge or skills you are setting yourself up for frustrations.  They are teaching you how to rely on you and no one else.
  9. WE DON’T KNOW WHO WE ARE MEETS I WILL TELL YOU WHO YOU ARE:  Get to know who you are without anyone else’s opinions. You most likely had goals and dreams before the narcissist.  What are they?  You most likely had friends and family who have been squeezed out of your life if they were considered a threat.  Go spend time with them.  Pursue your own interests again!  Discover who you are without the people pleaser, the societal programming, and the toxic person defining what you will be.  We have a very weak sense of ourselves and need to find that person.  Until then the narcissist is happy to define us and absorb us into feeding their projects, goals, and build their empire.  It’s up to you to do the inner work.
  10. OVERLY CONFIDENT MEETS OVERLY INSECURE:  Give validation to the narcissist. There is nothing wrong with admiring the narcissist’s strengths.  They can also be great people in lots of ways.  In fact, when you start healing yourself and there tactics no longer work it’s so much easier to enjoy their company.  We think we are angry with them.  Doing self-work shows us we are angry with ourselves being unable to deal with them.  I have learned a lot from narcissists!  They are ego maniacs so being great athletes, skilled professionals, leaders, or go-getters are qualities I admire.  Where before I would doubt, over-analyze, and be insecure the narcissist would be there reflecting that opposite personality.  Every person here has something to teach us and continually working on ourselves is the true task.  Gaining inner confidence, faith in myself, and perfecting inner balance is the goal.
  11. WANTS TO HELP EVERYONE MEETS WANTS TO SABOTAGE EVERYONE:  Be aware they are not here to help you in the traditional sense. They will sabotage your happiness and success on purpose.  If you start a diet they will push some sweet treat in your face.  If you start working out they will try and sabotage your plans.  To the narcissist everyone is competition.  There is not enough for everyone whether it’s admiration, love, money, or resources.  Do you see?  It takes a lot more inner strength to build yourself while someone is trying to tear you down.  They are temptations gateway.  Oh you just quit smoking let me blow smoke in your face.  Oh you’re on a diet and they just happen to show up with your favorite desert because they are so nice and thought about you.  Really they are just worried.  What if you have your own friends and they are not the center focus?  What if you follow your goals and dreams becoming successful and you don’t need them?  What if you get stronger and no longer are feeding their energy as a commodity to them?  If you get stronger or move beyond them what will happen to their false ego?  And in all of this worry they supply us with the test of our determination, will power, and determination.  Will you pick up that cigarette?  Will you eat the cake?  Will you dwindle your friends list for them?
  12. WE HAVE UNHEALED WEAKNESS’S WHERE WE REJECT OURSELVES AND THEY LOVE TO POINT THOSE OUT SO WE CAN FINALLY UNCONDITIONALLY LOVE OURSELVES AND OUR WEAKNESS’S:  Don’t dish out any personal information about weak spots in you. Everything you say can and will be used against you.  If you have already let the cat out of the bag be conscious of how they will use this information to push your hot buttons.  You can see how it’s being twisted to hurt you.  What’s really happening is the narcissist is magnifying the negative inner voice inside ourselves.  Use it as a tool to unconditionally love yourself and let whatever emotions come up be released.  Do you see?  The narcissist is voicing the negative inner voice inside ourselves.  They have showed up to show us the match for our own self talk.  You cannot attract someone who unconditionally loves you and your weakness’s, imperfections, and faults until you internally switch the coding inside yourself!  It’s not about them.  It’s about you.
  13. WE CAN’T LET GO OF WANTING TO HEAL AND FIX THE WORLD AND THEY ARE GREAT TEACHERS OF DRAWING THAT LINE . . . LETTING GO.  WE CANNOT HEAL AND FIX EVERYTHING:  You have to make peace with their qualities so you don’t bang your head against the wall. They don’t have the ability to feel guilty, ashamed, or compassionate for other people.  Their viewpoint is rationalized with them being the victim always regardless of what you have done.  They will twist every situation to make it look like they are the poor innocent wounded person.  This includes ignoring all facts that don’t support them.  Talking in circles.  Making blanket generalizations without supporting details.  Regular scheduled melt downs.  You are the bad guy but really they are frustrated with themselves, their job, their weight, etc. but it’s manifested to something about you.  They can’t be accountable for their faults.  We want so badly for them to see it yet they will never see it and the only person left frustrated will be you!  And truly the narcissist loves people on conditions and so do we . . . unconditional love would never be so powerful if it wasn’t for these personality types.  They are the test of the depths of our love.  Without moving into this space for them you will hold bitterness, anger, resentment, and judgement’s which only hurts you.  They do not care and will be the same regardless of how much you want to “fix” them.  Besides when you get into soul work you know they are exactly how they need to be to “fix” you.
  14. POSITIVE VIBE ATTRACTS NEGATIVE VIBE:  They will have completely false perceptions of situations, the past, people, or experiences that are nowhere in alignment with the truth. Don’t argue out there reality of disillusions it’s a waste of time and energy.  They really do live in their fantasy land where they are always the hero.  Or the victim or whatever it is they need to warp to fit their fake reality and get supply.  They see their lives with their own pair of sunglasses.  That pair of sunglasses puts everything and everyone in a negative light.  Except for themselves!  If you’re starting to see this be proud of yourself.  We are gullible and naïve and before you would have just fallen down the sucker road.  That means taking on their negative vibes.  The ultimate drain hole is surrounding you with their comments, viewpoints, and tilted reality.  To stay positive when you are around them means sealing off your container like a force field.  Otherwise anytime you hang out with them their negative goobers will bring you down.  Learn how to not be anyone else’s emotional puppet.  If they are negative don’t take that on and stay positive.  There glass is always half empty!  Yours doesn’t have to be!

Engaging peacefully with these personality types is completely possible.  Seems like a challenge and you know what initially it is.  However, as time goes on and you begin healing everything gets easier.  You really start understanding that they are helping you see those internal cracks and making you stronger.  The narcissist is simply showing you where you have imbalances.  These can be referenced to the energy systems that are not staying open.  I love the chakra archetypes because they are an easy way for me to identify when I am closing or opening chakra’s by doing my own self assessments.  Here is a link to a good article on the chakra archetypes that quickly allows you to do your own “reality” check.  See what resonates with you!


Your energy body is constantly opening and closing to how you live your life!  Shocking isn’t it lol.  The creator has completely designed a system that opens and closes energy when you are spiritually aligned.  That means energy work can open a doorway to healing but without changes in our state of being your energy field can close up moments after you get off the massage table.  All the work you just did was simply a band-aid.  A temporary fix.

Your energy field is constantly ebbing and flowing as you handle different situations, relationships and life.  The only true healing in my mind is the one that empowers the person and awakens a new awareness.  You are closing your own energy systems with any patterns, situations, or relationships that create emotional suffering.  The places where your energy is blocked from this suffering is creating illness and disease.  And vice versa!  Keeping these energy systems open all of the time takes self-work or self-realization.  You are the healer!  You are the “magic wand”!  It’s just all the concepts that have been kept in the vault by the Illuminati and tainting of information.  That’s why we are in this great window of time.


It’s my mission in 2018 to provide free, easily accessible, understandable, clear information to everyone regardless of economic level.  If you feel like you have received something of value from this, feel inspired to do so, and are in a financial position to donate to this cause you can click the link below.  All donations go to support the time and energy I invest in providing these resources to everyone regardless of their financial situation.  In fact, some of the people who need this information the most have running programs and money blockages that prevent them from being able to afford the basics much less energy healing. Yes, I will be going into that soon too!

Much gratitude and love to everyone on their journey either way!

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Bully Brave – Heal To Break Free

I’ve been so overwhelmed by some of the video clips lately showing the narcissistic bully victimizing innocent people.  It’s seriously such a heart wrenching experience for an Empath to see someone else be traumatized by the offenses of the dark bodies walking this planet.  It’s even more frustrating to know what’s happening under the veil and inside the holographic universe that most people do not see or understand.  And it’s part of my mission for 2018 to break down all the barriers between good and evil like we discussed on this last post.

Click here to Link To Blog Post – Shedding Light On The Dark.

For so long I just could NOT even begin to understand why these hurtful human beings would be a part of God’s plan.  Then I discovered they have a purpose in our healing and soul evolution!!

Keaton Jones I want you to heal, evolve, and transform from your experiences.  I want all of us who have dealt with the bully to strip them of their power and give it back to ourselves.  Here is the link to the youtube video that inspired me if it does not load for you.


Certainly I am not trying to justify them with what you are about to read.  However, I am seriously concerned that if we do not teach these principles the wheels of trauma will continue to go around and around without their purpose being recognized.       

Let me make this as simple as possible.

You are in a container with two forces:

  1. dark bodies – those people who get a feedback from hurting others and are not capable of human emotion such as empathy or compassion.
  2. light bodies – those people who get a feedback from helping others and are capable of profound amounts of empathy and compassion, in fact, to the point where WHEN OTHERS ARE HURT WE HURT.

You have a physical body and world that you can see which is what we all know.

You have an energetic and spiritual body that most people cannot see that consists of energy vibrating at all different frequencies.  These can be seen by some as etheric cords all connecting us together.  Much how your television works – all different pixels of light being reflected at different wavelengths to create “reality”.  These pixels of light contain all the coding of your cellular structure, unhealed wounds, and inner trauma’s.  They become broadcast here on “Earth” in order to reflect back those experiences you need to evolve, heal, and change through a system called suffering or bliss.  Bliss being the healed evolved you mirrored back through life.

Most of you already know this holographic universe or matrix exists but for those who’ve stumbled across my blog here is a link to the scientific evidence supporting this theory.

Science Daily – Holographic Universe

Your ability to see the matrix is completely unimportant because the answers are all here in the physical output and can easily be unraveled when you learn the techniques.  It’s all up to YOU.

Let’s get to it!

Have you noticed bullies only pick certain people to victimize?!?  And the victim usually carries out a very dramatic response to their attacks?!?!  What is this method of selection that is being used?!?  Some random inconsistent decision or something much deeper.  It’s actually a very scientific system all relating to inner trauma’s that are identical within both parties.  Even if the methods of extracting energy, love, attention, and validation are from opposite systems the bottom line issues are the same.

The dark body or narcissist is insecure and does not feel lovable at their core so they must tear someone else down to elevate themselves.  The victim does not internally feel lovable and the places the bully chooses to hit on are exact matches for where the victim is insecure.

The bully is that loud, screaming, obnoxious, hurtful voice in the outside world that matches the victims internal voice.

What do I mean by this?

What if YOU HATE YOUr nose or big butt?  Whatever it is that you have issues with YOU!  You will immediately get emotionally triggered when the bully starts running around in circles making fun of you.  What if you decide to unconditionally love your imperfections (heart chakra)?  We are all imperfect here but the empath or light body internally magnifies their imperfections.   Here the narcissist bully has shown up to painfully reflect that relationship the individual has with themselves!

You know why?

Without the pain we would never do the self work to finally see those spaces.  No self growth occurs where we are comfortable.  What happens when you see that this is about you rather than them?  You do the inner healing work to accept and unconditionally love yourself no matter what it is . . . the big nose, stupid, you fill in your own blank.

You could care less what they say about you when you:


They are no longer triggering that inner trauma.  That completely robs them of any sick payoff they can get from torturing you.  What’s the most horrific powerful experience the bully can have that completely goes against the fibers of their being.

You unconditionally love yourself so deeply that no one can pull you into their games.

Yep, I have a big nose.  OR  You’re right.  I do have learning difficulties and challenges.  SO do you, in fact, we all have strengths and weakness’s that are different.  The heart chakra can stay open because you have chosen unconditional love.  The throat chakra can stay open because you have stated your feelings but are unattached to their reaction.  So what you want to jump around and call me names?!?  You will know you have completely healed when being faced with them or re-counting there offenses no longer emotionally triggers you.

They are giving you the road map to your broken parts.  Just like the video with this little boy.  What if he looked at the situation as a source to do healing work?  Is it really about the bully saying my face is ugly, I have no friends, or I feel like my face is ugly or is my self worth dependent on having friends?  I decided on a system of taught belief systems that I am acceptable and lovable on these conditions or physical attributes.  If I do not fit the cookie cutter mold they do not accept me and neither do I.  Whether it’s physically, mentally, emotionally, or whatever it is that space the bully seems to hurt your feelings.  That’s where the healing work can be done.  Until the victim accepts and unconditionally loves himself these situations will keep coming up for him!

And honestly it must happen to create the suffering to finally find value and love for himself exactly as he is imperfectly perfect.  Only then can his emotional reaction to the bully’s slams over and over not emotionally affect him.  The truth is we do not know how to unconditionally love ourselves much less others.  All these games on the outside world reflect the games each and every single one of us play with ourselves.  THIS IS THE TIME OF ENLIGHTENMENT TO HEAL!

Only then when he unconditionally loves those broken parts can he mirror situations in life with people who unconditionally love him.  Only when the bully unconditionally loves himself without needing to tear others down to lift himself up can he heal his own toxic behaviors.  That is exactly why UNCONDITIONAL LOVE is the MAGICAL UNIVERSAL FORCE that will change everything.

Let’s say you start doing the inner work to unconditionally love your broken parts.  By healing these inner wounds they cannot get to you.  They are used to you being terrorized by their actions and now you do not emotionally get pulled into their games.  They will bump up their monkey behaviors jumping around, loud, rude, and right in your face to test you.

Will they be able to get under your skin?  Providing us with the great lesson as stated by Ghandi – “No one can hurt me without my permission.”  You must engage them in some way or “give them permission” to let their words hurt you.  Guess what that means you also have the power to “deny them access”.  When you completely deal with these personalities unaffected you will realize how much stronger they have made you in their attempts to tear you down.

If the narcissistic bully is capable of pulling you into self-doubt, anger, frustration, insecurity, conditional love, shame, guilt, etc. they will keep coming back for more.  That’s the energy they need just like your body needs food.  And trust me they will get loud and in your face if you do not engage with them.  That’s how they provide another spiritual test for you.  You must stand up for yourself in a healthy way without dropping into rage or anger.

You must learn self control in order to keep your cool and not go into the deep end with them.


Beyond a physical confrontation with them what is this barrage of hurtful words anyway.  A way to inspire that ego of yours to fall into their traps.  It’s like the gnats that buzz around while you are trying to meditate or work outside and every part of you wants to squash that little sucker but you can’t get your fingers on him.  He knows how to get right by your ear and make a lot of noise to come between you and your focus.  The trick and the power is in staying focused, centered, and open regardless of conditions.

They are just the trigger point you needed and messenger of YOUR inner wounds and imbalances.  They have the road map to your cracks and so do you by every time you emotionally react to them!

There are 3 main parts to healing through the bullies attacks:

  1. They do not love you for your imperfections meets I do not love myself for my imperfections.
  2. Lack of self-control meets that pushy barometer of your self-control.  Seriously, you just want to punch them in the face and you must evolve beyond that inner child who let’s others have control of you emotions and physical reactions.  It won’t be easy.  They are completely designed to get you wound up by knowing ALL your hot buttons!
  3. Why would anyone care what a heartless bully thinks?  They are heartless human beings.  Yet the victim will care what they think.  They have not self-partnered.  Self-partnering is that solid unconditional love, honoring, and taking care of YOU regardless of what anyone else thinks.  If the victim has not reached this level of self-growth and is still depending on other people to love and accept themselves when the bully pulls the plug on them what happens?!?  They have no inner partnership to depend on!  If we have abandoned ourselves and who we are it is deeply traumatic when the outside world does.  Only when we are a support of love to ourselves will it not matter who does or does not like us or what they say about us.  You know who you are and value yourself unwavered by anyone else’s opinion.

When you heal, evolve, and transform through the experience you no longer feed them any energy.  They will be forced to move onto a new “victim” for supply.  You no longer have anything to offer them as this new version of yourself shows up!

We must teach our children as well as ourselves to switch the flip on them and take back our personal power!!

Teaching the methods of looking outside of ourselves and for other people to change is an old paradigm that does not work, evolve, or heal at a soul cellular level.  Looking at ourselves and the experience is an indicator of our unhealed wounds is where the growth happens.  We cannot continue to stay in these repeat patterns begging the abusers to modify their behavior.


I am also a huge proponent of learning physical self-defense.  I realize that this has been lost to the “new age” culture but we must face the fact that there are people who will hurt you.  Trust me I spent a long time trying to turn the other cheek on that but in “waking up” I realized that my body was to be honored, loved, and cherished.  However, I may be put under the test of physically standing up for it as well as mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  I am not here to invoke harm but I do believe the strength God gives us DOES NOT come from handing all of our personal power away.  The power comes from each and every single one of us using the temple (physical vessel) to stand for what is right and just.  We must train our youth and ourselves the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual STRENGTH to be used with honor, self-control, and to stand for the principles of true justice.

Speaking of which that gives a whole other element of spiritual tests for the victims and outsiders watching the bullies now doesn’t it!

Will you stand for others or sit and watch because of your own inner fears of the bully?  Have we become so self-absorbed we care more about our own cheeseburger than another human being?  Check out this video!


The bully is a coward picking on the weak but they are spurring the coward in each and every single one of us.  What happens if you feel angry at yourself for not standing up for yourself or someone else?  You create a repeat wheel of that exact situation until you unconditionally love yourself as the coward rather than warrior.  Everything here is working in it’s perfect order to trigger those wounds.  When you move out of that self-anger and into unconditional love for yourself as “the coward” only then can you move forward into “the warrior” status. (completely connected to solar plexus and sacral chakra’s)

This is a necessary and important step otherwise you will make judgement’s of those who sit and watch while doing nothing instead of see them in compassion, understanding, and forgiveness.  Awe so many facets to one experience!!  This blog post would be a book if I went deeply into the many elements.

Training here isn’t simply emotional, mental, or spiritual it encompasses the whole wheel including physical.  What if we started enrolling future generations in self-defense classes?  We explained how these bullies were simply triggers for us to do self-work.  Our emotional responses for their harsh words and how we react to them is completely up to us.  Yet, there is this physical element that must be addressed.  Not all bullies use physical force but they are cowards themselves so they only choose the “weak”.  What if this mother got her child enrolled in self-defense classes or some type of training to boost his confidence, power, and sense of security that only comes from knowing you can take care of you.

We must move out of this mindset that the police, teacher, parent, or God will protect us and start empowering ourselves and our children.  The dark forces want us to be weak, helpless victims, and to operate in EGO because we make easier targets!

God’s waiting for you to tap into this grand source.  Without the bullies supplying the experience to be moved through we cannot evolve the God/Goddess inside of each and every single one of US!  The bible even references this energetic chakra system.

“As God created Man in his own image, so is the body of Man like into the image of this universe.  The material body of Man has also got seven conspicuous places within it called Patals.  Turning toward his self while man advances in the right way he perceives the Spiritual Light in these places which are described in the Bible as so many Churches and The Lights perceived therein like stars as so many Angels.  Vide Rev. 1, 12, 13, 16, 20

” – and having turned I saw seven golden candlesticks.”  “And in the midst of of the seven candlesticks one like into the Son of Man.”

” – and he had in his right hand seven stars.”

” – the seven stars are the angels of the seven churches; and the seven candlesticks which thou sewest are seven churches.”

Quoted from the great book The Holy Science by Swami Jui Maharaj.

The Book of Revelations is referencing the energetic body as running the “light body.”  The chakra’s meridians, grid, radiant circuits, etc. all being connected to the emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical body.

Running in complete light regardless of this physical world and the darkness takes self-work but for those seekers who choose to ignite their own rainbow body the payoff is eternal.  We must incarnate here over and over again until we reach this frequency and vibration.  Until then the world is still here triggering our inner trauma’s and spiritual tests we have not yet jumped.

Everything is here exactly as it needs to be for you to work on you!

This battle starts with each and every single one of us in our homes with our lives and our children.

No one else needs to change.  Everything is here for a specific purpose.

Ignite your inner warrior of light!



It’s my mission in 2018 to provide free, easily accessible, understandable, clear information to everyone regardless of economic level.  If you feel like you have received something of value from this, feel inspired to do so, and are in a financial position to donate to this cause you can click the link below.  All donations go to support the time and energy I invest in providing these resources to everyone regardless of their financial situation.  In fact, some of the people who need this information the most have running programs and money blockages that prevent them from being able to afford the basics much less energy healing. Yes, I will be going into that soon too!

Much gratitude and love to everyone on their journey either way!

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Toxic Narcissistic Souls and Dark Energy

I think we all understand that there is a huge battle happening between the dark and the light.  Yet we are completely confused and misinterpret the meaning of it’s design.  We as light bodies contract with dark energy unaware we have engaged.  Narcissists, toxic people, and psychopaths all present a charming, good looking, and amazing presentation.  We often have no idea what is happening until we have signed up for a contract with the devil.

What could these personality types possibly be here to teach us?

Thank you God/Gaia/Universe for experiences with energy, consciousness, and the great awakening!

I had no idea what was going on even though I recognized something was wrong.  The truth is narcissists, psychopaths, and toxic personalities are so good at being evil without being discovered that I did not even see that people close to me were intentionally hurting me.  Are these the “wolves in sheeps clothing” or the snake selling me the apple in the Garden of Eden?  I have just kept believing them and taking a bite off of the apple they are so cunningly selling.


What I didn’t understand was these twisted up people were here to inspire the warrior goddess inside of me.  I had retreated into my shell rather than picking up my sword.  My spirit had in fact crumbled under their games.  I was walking around looking completely normal but truly feeling dead on the inside.  For years these toxic people or “dark bodies” had completely sucked me dry of my energy, love, and life.  I was the victim to what I’ve come to know as spiritual cannibalism or soul death.  Walking around in a physical body but completely dead on the inside.

I kept falling for their tricks rather than unraveling their tactics, mechanisms, and illusions so I would turn them down.  Rise above the darkness and slay the monster.  The monster in myself and the one’s in the outside world!  

The focus of the next set of blog posts is completely based on several things:

  1. Understanding their purpose on this planet and in our lives.
  2. Using our relationships with them to finally heal our wounded parts and balance ourselves.
  3. Make the connection between their role in our spiritual development and the series of spiritual tests they supply.
  4. Engage with them without losing any of our positive happy vibes to their non-sense.

We all must have relationships with narcissists.  They are our spouses, co-workers, family members, and in all life situations.  As much as we want to hide or isolate ourselves there is no escape.  Trust me I tried it lol!

I am a people lover.

I just didn’t know how to engage without being hurt.

I didn’t know that I had attracted them with my own imbalanced and unhealed parts.

I didn’t know who was a true friend and simply using me.

I didn’t play games so I didn’t see when others were playing games with me.

I wanted to play here on Earth and have fun but I didn’t know how.  When I tried it just became a series of wounds that repeatedly got triggered.  Until now healing, evolving, and transcending the inner pains and hurts that these personality types triggered.  I am so in love with life now like a small child in a sea of darkness but educated, healed, and street smart!

I will break down the major narcissist’s tactics one by one to show you exactly how they have been used as indicators of where you need to heal, transform, and balance out your dysfunctional wounded parts.  We have been taught these these toxic relationships simply happen to us but it’s not true.  We are attracting these personality types with our energy field like a magnet.  Until we evolve and heal within the relationship it is NOT ever going anywhere.

Yes, you may leave one partner, friendship, work, or life situation but if you haven’t addressed the internal dilemma the situation will be re-created with a new partner, friendship, work, or life situation.  Your body works on the laws of attraction too.  The energetic self is always being reflected back to you.

A few examples being:

I do not make myself a priority attracts someone who doesn’t make you a priority.

I only love myself as a commodity attracts someone who only loves you as a commodity.  (meaning you must do something or provide a resource for someone in order to be loved this could be sex, money, housing, a service, etc.)

I do not deserve to be heard attracts you do not deserve to be heard.

I can’t accept my imperfections attracts that loud, screaming voice pointing out all of your imperfections.

I do not realize my own good qualities and attributes attracts the counter partner who will never give you credit for your own good qualities and attributes.

I am naive and gullible attracts the master manipulator.

Plus, Earth is full of spiritual tests created by dark bodies which are completely necessary for our own evolution.  For example, we are surrounded in a dark place where selfishness and toxic behavior is running rampant.  Will you fall into those behaviors because everyone is doing it?  Maybe you have a business relationship where you feel like the owner is a crook.  You recently noticed you didn’t get charged for something you should have.  Will you validate yourself not bringing it to their attention because you feel they are shady and have taken advantage of you or point it out because it is the right thing to do regardless of how they are?!?  We need these set-ups to test us!

We are in an amazing time period right now.

An evolution of consciousness from the dark ages to the light ages for all of those ready and willing to do the inner work.

The suffering in any relationship is necessary for you to finally want to change the one person this is all about!


The toxic person is simply the trigger point necessary to point out these wounds and imbalances painfully.  The suffering in these relationships isn’t about them it is from our reaction to them.  And the laws of attraction work on an energetic level to bring these players into our life.  I know, I know, you’ve been saying mantra’s . . . well those only work if the energy is in alignment.  Otherwise it’s just your ego playing games with you.

Absolutely a narcissist and toxic person will never form relationships with people who unconditionally love, honor, and stand for themselves.  Or those who wisen up to their systems.

We will be completely disarming those systems and their tactics.

  • idolize, discard, devalue
  • gaslighting
  • isolation
  • shock and intimidation
  • negative deconditioning
  • moving the goal post
  • projection
  • lies and illusions
  • triangulation
  • manipulative behaviors
  • confrontational, argumentative,  bullies
  • ego maniac attraction
  • users and abusers
  • insensitive and callous
  • negative and draining

Be glad you are naive to how they work because it shows you do not operate by those systems yourself.

I am also going to explain in detail the emotional, spiritual, and energetic shutdowns that can happen if we are uneducated and still wounded souls. The tips and techniques will be given to heal through the experiences, understand the design, and do the inner work necessary.  You’ll be surprised when you can be in toxic situations and never lose your positive state of being, energy, or get sucked into their games!

Being able to achieve this requires self work and does not require them to change.

You will be changing you and that results in changing your reaction to them.

We need the darkness as it is the only tool to show us these wounded parts so we can heal.  The toxic people are wired to be completely avoid of emotions because light bodies could never be capable of creating the suffering dark bodies do that is necessary for us to see what is inside of us. If you have self abuse patterns but there is no one to abuse you and create suffering you won’t ever have to deal with it.  Plus they must create the spiritual tests as we swim through a sea of darkness without falling into their systems.

The real dilemma is all of the tools, techniques, and ways they were designed to make us evolve have been hidden.  We are in a golden age and all the truths are being unveiled.

Sign up for my blog posts or keep watching my page to dive deeper into these concepts and uncover these keys.  We are here to finally use this physical experience to have, do, and be everything we ever wanted rather than experience life as a pinball to the narcissist, toxic people, and Illuminati’s machine.

2018 is the year for the empath’s, healer, and light bodies to transform their experience!

We will completely strip the dark powers of their power by healing ourselves!

It’s our time to bust through the prison of the matrix and the galactic war is shifting to light bodies side!!


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Healing By Energy Transfers

Healing and Energy Transfers!

I have not really seen very much written about how we are all transferring energy around all of the time!  Part of our journey as a spirit in the physical body is to understand the messages when we transfer energy and to become so solid that we hold a positive state of emotions all of the time.  I am constantly watching and studying how energy works, flows, and connects us to our divine mission.  There is no where to go to do spiritual work as every present moment is full of lessons!

Here are some key idea’s about emotions and energies to keep in mind.

  1. If you repress emotions you blare them in you’re energetic field.  Officially you are what us energetically sensitive folks call “broadcasting”.  This could be felt by an empath as a wave of emotions that they know are not our own.  Or it could be a shutdown of a chakra vortex putting physical pressure on the body, organs, pathways, and systems in it’s field similar to a mini tornado.
  2. Emotions transfer energy between people ALL of the time.  Regardless if you feel or see energy you are an intrinsic part of the universe and when you start looking and becoming aware of what’s happening you will begin to SEE how this happens.  Scientifically there is no way around the laws of the nature.

So let’s see God did I get that right?!?  I am here to deeply experience.  When I deny myself feelings I create an energetic shutdown BUT I’m also supposed to become a constant state of unconditional love, gratitude, compassion, bliss, peace, and forgiveness.  For so long I couldn’t figure this out.  What am I supposed to do here with this . . . seems contradictory.  I’m a mushy, deeply feeling, sensitive female creature who cares about others in a sometimes non-sensible way.  I’m supposed to be attached but not attached . . . suffer enough to see my way out of suffering completely . . . unconditionally love but don’t become a door mat . . . forgive but be smart enough to know who to trust . . . embrace the ego but live fully by spirit/christ consciousness/universal love . . .

Awe no wander there is darkness!  Certainly this would be easy if we were all little bliss bubbles running around.  On some other dimensions that’s exactly what we do I’m sure of it!  We deeply understand how energy and the spiritual vessel works and use a complete constant state of LIGHT together with our physical bodies as ways to express LOVE through the arts, music, food, dance, and everything we do! Each and every present moment simply becomes an expression of cosmic consciousness separate yet interlaced in beauty with everyone and everything.  All that we touch is infused by our universally tapped magic!

We are making our way through here first though so we will be ready.  Do you see this 3rd dimension we experience here on Earth is built in with the darkness to make us stronger!  We cannot hit higher dimensions until we radiate unconditional love, forgiveness, compassion, peace, and bliss in every present moment!  Hence the whole need for the time capsule here and illusion of separateness as we experience our unhealed spaces to work out our own inner turmoil!!

So what happens exactly with these little messengers we have ALL the time in transferring energy!


As a positive, caring, loving person you’re energetic field is really open!  This is shown by the aura being more like a dotted line filtering energy in and out.  The self-centered and negative person has a closed aura that is very self-contained.  You see how you magnetically line up.  You are very focused on others.  They are very focused on themselves.  This happens a lot in marriages the positive vibe marries the negative vibe.  Or for example, one partner is completely needy and receives their own lack of love from others.  The other partner needs to be “needed”.  They make up for their lack of self-love by being “needed”.  If either partner decides to do their own self work through the journey inside themselves rather than receiving LOVE from outside sources those energies will NOT continue to line up.  When one person shifts the magnetic attraction will completely fall apart.

What most people don’t see is that they are responsible not the other person!  The person who “needs to be needed” will complain about how “needy” there partner is but cannot see their role in the relationship.  If you “need to be needed” guess what you won’t stay with someone who is well grounded and self-sufficient.  Even if one relationship falls apart guess what the next relationship will be the same!  I also think their is a pattern you recreate when you have a dysfunctional relationship with a parent and newsflash we all DO lol!  But you a choose a partner that mirrors where you haven’t worked out those unhealed wounds with that parent.  However that’s a whole other topic for another day too.  🙂

So what happens as your energetic field goes from positive to negative emotions?  All your little happy emotions start transferring to the negative person.  I never realized this until I started having experiences with energy YET once I connected all the dots so much made sense.  You can watch this happen in you. You can totally feel this happen as you shift from that happy, positive, and loving vibe to that sad, depressed, negative vibe.  You’re thinking what just happened I was so happy and you might even want to blame them!!

My 10 year old daughter who started talking about seeing the matrix a few years ago first explained this to me as dark cords. “mom there’s all these cords. The red one’s are love but the black ones are bad.  People will attach them to you and you have to cut them.”  We all know those people who turn every possible situation into a negative outlook.  As an empath what I never understood is I was getting hooked into their feelings.  What happens when someone is negative and the positive person just allows them to be without ruining their mood?  Now is it easy to do?!?  On paper maybe but we put people on our path that know all of our internal hot buttons.  Well ya!  That’s why I call Earth training camp . . . Here’s how you’re field looks after you hang out and transfer your positive energy to that negative vibe.  Guess who feels better they do?  Guess who feels worse?  You DO!  Watch this happen and you will see them actually be happier when you shift yourself into that negative state of being!  Awe and then the light bulb goes ON and you can see it!  SOLID GOLD MOMENT RIGHT THERE!


I’ve done this too not on purpose which I think some people actually get a feedback off of shifting you into negative emotions.  Narcissists, controlling, and manipulative personalities I am not including in this because they are intentionally using people.  If you think about it though even as a loving person I get frustrated in myself.  My attitude will reflect that and I may be less patient with my kids!  I might blow up about something they did when really it’s just me.  I’m stressed out or frazzed out.  I’ve noticed there’s always an internal message something I needed to learn even in dealing with a narcissist.  However narcissists are a whole topic themselves.  Honestly energy vampires that require a whole complete novel dedicated to them!  I’m working on a whole e-book on what you’re internal cracks are when you hook repeatedly into these relationships.  Look for that soon!

Let’s take a look at this with an example.  The bliss bubble is really rolling that day and you are feeling like a million bucks.  So fun loving!  You run into that negative vibe who thinks you are just too happy.  They are feeling internally miserable so you just hit all of here triggers.  You get in an argument because they pick a fight someway somehow.  Maybe this your spouse, a coworker, or a family member that knows all your little weak spots!  You know what you think I’m not going down I’m happy and I won’t let you ruin my mood.  However that little negative vibe just won’t shut up.  They are just pushing and pushing on you until it happens.  You snap!  Bamm all of the sudden you blow you’re top and hit the negative wheel.  All you have to do is get frustrated with them and they’ve picked up some energy.  A full on melt down now that’s like the land of milk and honey right there.

Becoming aware of it is empowering in itself!  So many times I’ve watched myself get into the negative wheel too!  I can just see them too as the throw their comments and jabs at me begging me to get into the misery wheel.  When I do they get happier and what cracks me up is sometimes they might even try to console me.  “It’s not that bad.”  Or just as I watch them shift themselves into a happier state of being while I’m over here dripping with their negative goobers.  That’s part of our mission here is to learn how to not take on other people’s stuff.  Unless it positive vibes and then we want those suckers to magnify when we are around each other!!

What do we need to do to get there?!  Embrace how our ego works to lead us into unconditional love.  You must really recognize how you have been guilty of jealousy, lust, gluttony, envy, pride, and all of those fun qualities that they have been using religions to make us feel ashamed of ourselves.  Well guess what happens when you realize you’ve been jealous before and you meet up with someone who’s a jealous personality.  You don’t make judgement’s.  You love and accept them because you can see your own guilt!  That right there shifts your field.  How about envy?  The media has been trying to manipulate the comparative mind against us since it’s conception.  We all compare ourselves to each other but what happens when you decide to embrace that feeling and see beyond it rather than watch it lead you around in circles!

Who makes more money?

Who drives a better car?

Who has a nicer house?

Who’s went further in their career?

Who’s in better physical shape?

Just all kinds of ways that are created by the ego to trap us in negative emotions.  I watch my comparative mind all the time.  I’m aware that she’s a part of me but I don’t let her lead me down the road of “I’m not good enough.”  But you know what that’s taken me . . . deeply loving myself just as I am the good, bad, and the ugly!  When I see someone’s comparative mind at work I don’t judge them for it one bit because I see mine but I also don’t take their negative emotions and swap energy.  That’s because I see my own guilt in operating within my comparative mind and I see how it actually was an indicator of my own lack of self love being reflected by someone else.

I like examples because sometimes the words can lead to a bunch of mumbo jumbo . . . imagine you see an old high school friend running around town.  It’s a gorgeous day and you feel like the world is full of new possibilities.  You visit for awhile and find out he is the CEO of a successful company.  In fact, he is driving a brand new fancy Escalade.  The guy was always such an arrogant ego-maniac you think of course he has it all!  Assholes always hit the top rung on the corporate ladder.  Of course, he hasn’t changed since high school as he scoffs at you and makes a comment, “Is that the same care you drove in high school?”

“No it’s not actually.  What I love about it though is it’s paid for!”  You try to keep your composure when you really want to just be driving a Ferrari and cram that sucker down his throat.  You don’t show him but you feel like pond scum for the moment and are forced to tell him when he so politely asks in his condescending way, “so what are you up to?”  Oh the glory moment to tell him how you just got divorced.  You moved back to your home town to start over and are looking for a job but haven’t found one yet.  You both walk away and he smirks as he gets into his fancy rig looking like a rock star.  Immediately you start to feel like a failure in life.  This one little 15 minute interval has totally shifted you’re entire mood and outlook on life.  Some things here have to happen before you get total control of you’re field!

You must love yourself there in that space for you to become unconditional love and protect your energetic field!

It’s not him that rejects you.

It’s you that rejects you.

He is simply a mirror for you to see that internal crack!

That old high school friend gets in his Escalade and drives off and what you don’t see is he just showed up with a bunch of negative emotions you didn’t see.  He is stressed to the max with a wife that spends all of his money and he doesn’t truly love anyways.  That corporate job squeezes out 70-80 hours a week from him so he can stay on top.  Everything he owns needs that big guy paycheck though to make those bills happen every month.  Of course he would never say it but he would love to drive a car that was paid off.  He would love to leave his wife and this draining corporate job.  Your life is full of freedom!

And so the two comparative minds go to work along with those cracks where each party is reflecting their own lack of love through that 15 minute encounter.  We are all the same.  Only the manifestations of the lack of love show up in different ways.  If you deeply loved yourself with the old car, the divorce, the no job his little comments wouldn’t have affected you one bit.  The energy transfer would have never happened and you would have continued on your day just as happy as you started out!  Even if you see that jealousy or envy pop up from the comparative mind you acknowledge and embrace that part of you exactly how it shows up!  You see it for what it is and let it go!  What’s cool about seeing yourself fall into the trap is when other people jump in the “comparative mind” wheel you feel compassion, forgiveness, and unconditional love rather than envy, bitterness, anger, shame and whatever negative emotions the experience may trigger.

Do you see it’s a road map but guess what also happens when we all deeply heal our inner wounds.  We stop the energy transfers in their tracks.  You create an energetic force of exponentially expanding light in the time space continuum that spreads like waves of love across the ocean!

That’s how we transmute darkness into light and exactly what we are here to learn!

And if I am giving them my permission to hurt me it is because I have a space inside of me that has not yet fully healed.  They are not to blame.  I will be grateful to them as they are simply my messenger!

It’s my mission in 2018 to provide free, easily accessible, understandable, clear information to everyone regardless of economic level.  If you feel like you have received something of value from this, feel inspired to do so, and are in a financial position to donate to this cause you can click the link below.  All donations go to support the time and energy I invest in providing these resources to everyone regardless of their financial situation.  In fact, some of the people who need this information the most have running programs and money blockages that prevent them from being able to afford the basics much less energy healing. Yes, I will be going into that soon too!


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I love this book by Don Ruiz that talks about this exact concept of energy transfers.  For those looking to expand their understanding of how energy works between is this is a great supplemental read.  I highly recommend it!

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